In Times of Bereavement

In Times of Bereavement

In the unfortunate event that a person has passed away, there are three things that must be done in the first few days;

  • Get a medical certificate from your GP or hospital doctor (this is necessary to register the death)
  • Register the death within 5 days (8 days in Scotland). You will then receive the necessary documents for the funeral.
  • Make the necessary funeral arrangements.

Register the death

If the death has been reported to the coroner (or Procurator Fiscal in Scotland) they must give permission before registering the death.

You can register the death if you are a relative, a witness to the death, a hospital administrator or the person making the arrangements with the funeral directors.

You can use the ‘Register a Death’ page on the website that will guide you through the process. This will also explain the registration process for Scotland and Northern Ireland.

Arrange the funeral

The funeral can usually only take place after the death is registered. Most people use a funeral director, though you can arrange a funeral yourself.

Funeral directors

Choose a funeral director who’s a member of one of the following:

These organisations have codes of practice – they must give you a price list when asked.

Some local councils run their own funeral services, for example for non-religious burials. The British Humanist Association can also help with non-religious funerals.

Arranging the funeral yourself

Contact the Cemeteries and Crematorium Department of your local council to arrange a funeral yourself.

Funeral costs

Funeral costs can include:

  • funeral director fees
  • things the funeral director pays for on your behalf (called ‘disbursements’ or ‘third-party costs’), for example, crematorium or cemetery fees, or a newspaper announcement about the death
  • local authority burial or cremation fees

Funeral directors may list all these costs in their quotes.

Tell us Once:

Tell Us Once is a service that lets you report a death to most government organisations in one go.

When you register the death the registrar will:

  • let you know if the service is available in your area
  • give you the phone number
  • give you a unique reference number to use the Tell Us Once service onlineor by phone

CRUSE Bereavement Service:

Other Services

http://Final Suicide Bereavement Resource Feb 2019.pdf

http://Children & Young Adults Bereavement-and-loss-CYP-Hampshire-090620.pdf

Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)

Bereavement Support Links

  • Cruse Bereavement Care

Surrey Heath and Farnham tel: 01483 565660

Hart and Rushmoor tel: 01264 336006/01264 335569

  • Brigitte Trust – Surrey Heath and Farnham

Tel: 01306 881816

  • Child Bereavement UK

provides support for families and professionals when a child dies or when a child grieves.

Helpline: 0800 028 8840

  • Marie Curie

Tel: 0800 090 2309

  • At a Loss

provides useful bereavement resources

  • Thames Hospice

provides pre and post bereavement services, including specific services for children and young people.

  • Phyllis Tuckwell Hospice Care

provides support to those whose loved ones have died under the care of Phyllis Tuckwell.

Tel: 01252 729430 email:

  • Independent Age

provides a range of information and advice, including welfare, legal and financial.

Tel: 0800 319 6789

  • A Child of Mine

provides emotional and practical support to bereaved parents and families.

Tel: 07803 751 229

  • Daisy’s Dream

provides support and information to bereaved children and families, working predominantly in Berkshire and the surrounding areas.

Tel: 0118 934 2604

  • Shooting Star Children’s Hospice

provides bereavement support to families across Surrey.

Tel: 01483 230960

  • Naomi House & Jacks Place

provide one-to-one counselling and bereavement support in a number of areas including Hampshire, Berkshire and Surrey

Tel: 01962 760060

  • Alexander Devine Children’s Hospice

provides support to bereaved families and the wider community across Berkshire and surrounding areas.

Tel: 01628 822777